Hello again everyone! As we all know, this week hosts one of the biggest money making holidays for corporate America, Valentines Day. Although that last sentence might have sounded quite cynical, I am not saying that I oppose the holiday. I would also like to point out that like many other people I know, I will be single during this love-filled time, and I am okay with that.
I am writing this week's blog about love and whether or not it is necessary to be happy. I will not be interviewing anyone this week because I feel that my readers deserve to know the way I think, and hopefully it will spark a flicker of confidence to either feel strong during a moment of loneliness, or to find the courage needed to pull away from a rugged relationship. Before we begin this week's segment, let me begin by asking you to think of the definition of love. What is it? How is it shown? Is there a difference between loving your partner versus loving your immediate family? If so, what distinctions are there?
I will not say that I know what love truly is because, as I have stated in previous blogs, I have not lived long enough to experience it fully, but I do love. To me, love is the ability to honestly say that you would give your life for someone else. Some love God, others love their boyfriends. I love my family, and can honestly say that I would risk my life for each and every one of them. Love is knowing that the person is your anchor. They are the strength that keeps you weighed down through your troubles. Love is the ability to be completely honest with the person and for them to feel the same way towards you. Love is knowing that if anyone hurt that person, you would make it your personal task to make them better then go to the person that hurt them and slap said person.
I am currently writing this blog in my college's computer lab, and it is taking every ounce of my strength to not break down in front of everyone around me and cry while writing this. I would love to be able to write to you all about my wonderful love life I have with this magical man, but I would be lying. I am alone, and I am okay with that. This is due to my family and friends. All throughout my life, my mother has always said that I would find myself and the right friends and man in college because then I would be on the same intellectual level as them. Thankfully she was right about the friendships (if you are reading this Mom, there ya' go!) and I feel more than blessed to say so. But still, part of me cannot help but feel this sense of yearning for someone to love me on a different level.
I will not settle for just anyone though, and to my readers who feel the same way, you are not alone you should start to think the same way I do. In order for someone else to truly love you, you must love and respect yourself first. Let's face it, what is more attractive than confidence in a partner? Do not take any guy or girl that comes your way just because they begin to show you even the slightest bit of attention. If they have a personality trait that truly bothers you or scares you, RUN!!!! You do not need anyone but yourself, and trust me, there are plenty of others who are willing to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. To my one friend who is hopefully reading this, she knows who she is, please understand that I love you, and am willing to be your anchor. And to my other readers, the same goes for you as well.
If there is one thing about myself that I am proud of, it is my strength. I know when I am being mistreated, and although it does not occur too often, I fix it. Here's my secret:
1. BREATHE (it will be okay)
2. Do not talk yourself out of saying what you feel
3. Remember that there is someone to talk to after everything is said and done
4. Do not drag out an argument, even if it is because the other person is causing it, just say "that is how I feel. Nothing you say will change that. If you truly want me in your life, you will change, I am not."
5. Stay strong and stay true to yourself. Never conform.
Love will hurt, but if it does, it is because that person is not good for you. Love is supposed to make you feel complete. If you love yourself, you would never hurt yourself or let anyone hurt you. Let us take the first step in finding happiness. Stay confident because it is worth it in the end, I promise. My life quote is "it must get worse before it gets better" and this simply means that turmoil must exist in your life in order for you to realize what it is and how to make the turmoil disappear. Life is a learning experience, and if you learn properly you will find love. Do not settle. Do not give up. I truly believe you need love in your life to be happy, but it does not have to come from a partner (although I would love one). As of right now, I am content with the true love I receive from my family and friends. And to all of those who support me, thank you. I love you too.
P.S. HERE IS A KISS FROM ME TO YOU :* <3
I am writing this week's blog about love and whether or not it is necessary to be happy. I will not be interviewing anyone this week because I feel that my readers deserve to know the way I think, and hopefully it will spark a flicker of confidence to either feel strong during a moment of loneliness, or to find the courage needed to pull away from a rugged relationship. Before we begin this week's segment, let me begin by asking you to think of the definition of love. What is it? How is it shown? Is there a difference between loving your partner versus loving your immediate family? If so, what distinctions are there?
I will not say that I know what love truly is because, as I have stated in previous blogs, I have not lived long enough to experience it fully, but I do love. To me, love is the ability to honestly say that you would give your life for someone else. Some love God, others love their boyfriends. I love my family, and can honestly say that I would risk my life for each and every one of them. Love is knowing that the person is your anchor. They are the strength that keeps you weighed down through your troubles. Love is the ability to be completely honest with the person and for them to feel the same way towards you. Love is knowing that if anyone hurt that person, you would make it your personal task to make them better then go to the person that hurt them and slap said person.
I am currently writing this blog in my college's computer lab, and it is taking every ounce of my strength to not break down in front of everyone around me and cry while writing this. I would love to be able to write to you all about my wonderful love life I have with this magical man, but I would be lying. I am alone, and I am okay with that. This is due to my family and friends. All throughout my life, my mother has always said that I would find myself and the right friends and man in college because then I would be on the same intellectual level as them. Thankfully she was right about the friendships (if you are reading this Mom, there ya' go!) and I feel more than blessed to say so. But still, part of me cannot help but feel this sense of yearning for someone to love me on a different level.
I will not settle for just anyone though, and to my readers who feel the same way, you are not alone you should start to think the same way I do. In order for someone else to truly love you, you must love and respect yourself first. Let's face it, what is more attractive than confidence in a partner? Do not take any guy or girl that comes your way just because they begin to show you even the slightest bit of attention. If they have a personality trait that truly bothers you or scares you, RUN!!!! You do not need anyone but yourself, and trust me, there are plenty of others who are willing to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. To my one friend who is hopefully reading this, she knows who she is, please understand that I love you, and am willing to be your anchor. And to my other readers, the same goes for you as well.
If there is one thing about myself that I am proud of, it is my strength. I know when I am being mistreated, and although it does not occur too often, I fix it. Here's my secret:
1. BREATHE (it will be okay)
2. Do not talk yourself out of saying what you feel
3. Remember that there is someone to talk to after everything is said and done
4. Do not drag out an argument, even if it is because the other person is causing it, just say "that is how I feel. Nothing you say will change that. If you truly want me in your life, you will change, I am not."
5. Stay strong and stay true to yourself. Never conform.
Love will hurt, but if it does, it is because that person is not good for you. Love is supposed to make you feel complete. If you love yourself, you would never hurt yourself or let anyone hurt you. Let us take the first step in finding happiness. Stay confident because it is worth it in the end, I promise. My life quote is "it must get worse before it gets better" and this simply means that turmoil must exist in your life in order for you to realize what it is and how to make the turmoil disappear. Life is a learning experience, and if you learn properly you will find love. Do not settle. Do not give up. I truly believe you need love in your life to be happy, but it does not have to come from a partner (although I would love one). As of right now, I am content with the true love I receive from my family and friends. And to all of those who support me, thank you. I love you too.
P.S. HERE IS A KISS FROM ME TO YOU :* <3
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